{"id":687,"date":"2021-01-24T18:31:41","date_gmt":"2021-01-24T18:31:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/benimyuvam.com.tr\/?p=687"},"modified":"2021-01-24T18:31:41","modified_gmt":"2021-01-24T18:31:41","slug":"kardesler-arasindaki-kiskanclik","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/benimyuvam.com.tr\/?p=687","title":{"rendered":"Karde\u015fler Aras\u0131ndaki k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Karde\u015fler aras\u0131nda k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131k duygusu ilk insano\u011flundan bu yana gelmektedir.<\/p>\n<p>&Ouml;yle ki kuran\u0131 Kerim kitab\u0131m\u0131zda yer alan iki Suredeki konular karde\u015f k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131\u011f\u0131na &ouml;rnektir.<\/p>\n<p>Bu surelerdeki iki konu ise Hz. Adem&#39;in &ccedil;ocuklar\u0131 aras\u0131ndaki hikayeden hem de Yusuf suresinde ki ge&ccedil;en olaylardan biri de karde\u015f k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131\u011f\u0131 meselesini yans\u0131tmas\u0131n dan dolay\u0131 anlayaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z &uuml;zere karde\u015f k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131\u011f\u0131 f\u0131tri bir duygudur.<\/p>\n<p>Asl\u0131nda karde\u015fler aras\u0131nda ya\u015fanan anne k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131\u011f\u0131, galibiyet k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131\u011f\u0131&nbsp;vb. gibi k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131klar ya\u015fanmas\u0131 normal olarak kar\u015f\u0131lanmal\u0131d\u0131r. Ama karde\u015fler aras\u0131ndaki bu k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131\u011f\u0131 normal kar\u015f\u0131lamam\u0131zdaki kriterler ise karde\u015flerin bir biriyle kavga etmemesi, bir birine zarar vermemesi, birbiriyle uzakla\u015facak ve kin g&uuml;decek kadar k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131klar\u0131n ya\u015fanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131k durumlar\u0131n\u0131 biz normal olarak kar\u015f\u0131lamal\u0131y\u0131z.<\/p>\n<p>Asl\u0131nda karde\u015fler aras\u0131ndaki k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131k problemini kendi aralar\u0131nda &ccedil;&ouml;zmelerini sa\u011flamam\u0131z gerekir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Karde\u015fler aras\u0131ndaki k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131k s&uuml;recini s&uuml;rd&uuml;r&uuml;rken yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z hatalar nelerdir?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Karde\u015fler aras\u0131nda var olan k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131k durumunu biz ebeveynler olarak bir i\u015f yapt\u0131rmak i&ccedil;in koz olarak kullanabiliyoruz. Mesela karde\u015fler aras\u0131nda en fazla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131rma yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z meselelerden biride abin&nbsp;ya da ablan s&ouml;z&uuml;m&uuml;z&uuml; dinliyor hep yard\u0131m ediyor sen yapm\u0131yorsun onun i&ccedil;in ben onlar\u0131 daha &ccedil;ok seviyorum gibi c&uuml;mleleri fazla kullan\u0131yoruz. Bu c&uuml;mlelerle karde\u015fler aras\u0131ndaki k\u0131yas ve rekabet duygusuna neden oluyoruz. Bu durumda &ccedil;ocuklar\u0131n birbirlerine olan sevgi ve sayg\u0131 derecesinin g&uuml;n ge&ccedil;tik&ccedil;e iyice azalmas\u0131na sebep olabilir.<\/p>\n<p>Bize d&uuml;\u015fen, birden fazla &ccedil;ocu\u011fa sahip olan ebeveynlere d&uuml;\u015fen sorumluluk karde\u015flerin bir birine rekabet ettirmemiz&nbsp;de\u011fil birbirine ortak ve birlik i&ccedil;in de olmalar\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Biz ebeveynler olarak karde\u015fler aras\u0131ndaki sevgi derecemizin, g&uuml;ven duygumuzun her iki karde\u015fe de ayn\u0131 derecede oldu\u011funu g&ouml;stererek, karde\u015fler aras\u0131nda k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131k duygusunu en aza indirmi\u015f oluruz.<\/p>\n<p>Evde &ccedil;ocuklar\u0131m\u0131zla yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z aktiviteler yada etkinliklerde karde\u015fleri bir birine rakip de\u011fil birbirlerini ayn\u0131&nbsp;grup i&ccedil;inde bulundurarak birbiriyle ortak olmay\u0131 &ouml;\u011frenmelerini sa\u011flamam\u0131z gerekir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Bir ba\u015fka durumda &ccedil;ocuklar aras\u0131ndaki adalet duygusu yerine e\u015fitlik durumunu sergileme. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Asl\u0131nda genel olarak ailelerde ben her &ccedil;ocu\u011fuma e\u015fit davran\u0131yorum s&ouml;z&uuml;n&uuml; duyar\u0131z. Yani bir&nbsp;&ccedil;ocu\u011fuma araba al\u0131yorsam di\u011fer &ccedil;ocu\u011fuma da araba al\u0131yorum anlam\u0131 ortaya &ccedil;\u0131k\u0131yor. Ama bu s&ouml;z o kadarda do\u011fru bir s&ouml;z de\u011fildir. &Ccedil;&uuml;nk&uuml; her &ccedil;ocu\u011fun bireysel farkl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131n vard\u0131r. Yani bir &ccedil;ocu\u011funuz sporla u\u011fra\u015fmay\u0131 seviyorsa, di\u011fer &ccedil;ocu\u011funuz resim yapmay\u0131 ya da masa ba\u015f\u0131nda etkinlik yapmay\u0131 seviyordur. Bu durumda ise biz ebeveynler olarak &ccedil;ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n yapmak istedikleri etkinlikleri ya da faaliyetleri onlar\u0131n yan\u0131nda bulunarak destek olmam\u0131z gerekir. Bu sayede &ccedil;ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za biz senin &ouml;zelliklerini oldu\u011fu gibi kabul ediyoruz senin destek&ccedil;iniz diyerek &ccedil;ocuklara bu duygular\u0131 a\u015f\u0131lanm\u0131\u015f oluruz. Bu sayede karde\u015fler aras\u0131ndaki k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131\u011f\u0131 normal seviyede tutmu\u015f oluruz.<\/p>\n<p>Biz ebeveynler olarak &ccedil;ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z aras\u0131nda kavga olmas\u0131n, birbirlerine zarar vermesinler diye u\u011fra\u015f\u0131r\u0131z ama asl\u0131nda karde\u015fler birbirleriyle ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 her olayda problem &ccedil;&ouml;zme becerilerini geli\u015ftirirler ve karde\u015flerin birbiriyle kurduklar\u0131 ileti\u015fimler sayesinde sosyalle\u015fmeleri daha &ccedil;abuk geli\u015fir.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Karde\u015fler aras\u0131nda k\u0131skan&ccedil;l\u0131k duygusu ilk insano\u011flundan bu yana gelmektedir. &Ouml;yle ki kuran\u0131 Kerim kitab\u0131m\u0131zda yer alan iki Suredeki konular karde\u015f [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":17,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[303],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-687","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-kose-yazilari"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v28.0 - 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